Suzy, you’re totally correct! Holding on to an ex or numerous types can seriously damage your overall partnership and that I discover this from knowledge. My personal sweetheart keeps in contact but has also been texting his ex and assisting all of them with numerous items behind my straight back. They moved as much as merchandise are given out at the holiday season to their parents from their ex inside front of me personally (while I became informed not to ever push nothing). It can tarnish a relationship whilst features mine. I also been informed that their final union is destroyed by him contacting that exact same ex. Checking with time to energy maybe ok but exactly why is that even required truly if it is triggering chaos? Should your existing partner is alright together with the call after that fine however, if maybe not, you should promote your overall companion the admiration and value they have earned. If you can’t promote that subsequently stay solitary.
Regardless of communications that is kept to ensure the well-being of children (assuming you will find any,) I think it is incredibly disrespectful to an ongoing lover to be emotionally enmeshed with an ex-lover (even although you reclassify the ex-lover as ‘just a friend.’)